ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).
I am 34 years old.
I am married.
I have 7 children. Here are their ages/genders: 12M, 10F, 8M, 6F, 4F, 2F, 2mo. M
I stay home when I’m not running kids to various sports etc.
I am upper-middle class.
I live urban.
I completed highschool and a tech school for dental assisting. I’m a college dropout though because I could never pick a major for more than one semester.
I am straight.
Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background. So very white.
My blog URL. http://staceysmotheringmoments.com/
NOW, TWENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU
- The most significant aspect of my upbringing. Hmmm. This is a tough one. I suppose my upbringing was pretty typical and boring. Is that significant?
- My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. Laugh. Not that I always take my own advice, but when the kids are screaming and the straw that breaks the camel’s back gets dumped all over the newly cleaned kitchen floor, it’s always better to laugh. And take lots of deep breaths. This too shall pass.
- Something that concerns me about my children. Letting them out into the world. I’m not a “keep ‘em close at all times” kind of mom, but there is some scary crap out there.
- My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). Oh geez. Which one? I have never professed to be a perfect mother, but probably the worst moment was screaming at my two-year-old because she had gotten into the nail polish and gotten it all over the carpet, walls…you name it. When I stopped and looked at her terrified face, it broke me. It was definitely not a mother of the year performance on my part.
- What annoys me most about other mothers. Their need to prove themselves. We are all just trying our hardest, why not be comrades instead of competitors?
- I am happiest when my children are happy.
- I am saddest when I screw up, as in #4. I hate that I’m so human sometimes.
- My biggest fear. Alienating my children when they are teenagers.
- I am ashamed of the fact that sometimes I don’t even want to be around my children and pray they’ll go play at someone elses house.
- Something I need to forgive. Myself. Every day. I am so hard on myself and my downfalls.
- Something I wish I could say to someone. Back off lady, I have a big family and I LIKE IT!
- Something I have never told anyone. I don’t know. I’m pretty open.
- Something I am trying to change about myself. Yelling at my kids. I hate doing it. And yet, by the third time I tell them to get in the dang car, I lose it. I think I need more patience.
- My biggest accomplishment. I ran my first half-marathon last spring. I am NOT a runner. (Ok, maybe I am now, but I wasn’t.)
- I wish I could go on vacation for a month to the beach and have someone else do all the hard stuff like packing and cleaning and cooking. I just want to sit and watch the kids play.
- Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting. It’s never easy.
- Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting. That it’s ok to disagree with your kids and it’s ok to apologize when you mess up.
- How I would describe my faith life. So very important, but not always as much as an active role as it should be.
- Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year. I hope to have lost my baby weight and be training for another half-marathon
- Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above. People think I’m amazing because I have so many children. I have a lot of people who either look at me like I’m crazy or are in awe. I am neither a crazy woman (ok, so maybe that’s up for debate) or a woman to be in awe of. I take one day at a time and I do it imperfectly. I do the best I can and I am constantly learning, sometimes the same lesson over and over again. I love my children and I love my life as it has turned out, but if you asked me when I was young what I wanted in life, who I am is not the answer you would have received.
- BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments. How do you find ways to be happy in the every day monotony of motherhood?