I am 38 years old.
I am happily married but often lack the time to truly enjoy our marriage.
I have 2 children; a million dollar family with a 5-year-old boy and 3-year-old daughter.
I mostly stay at home but “dabble” with work a day or two a week.
I am middle, middle upper maybe? I was once more upper before having kids!
I live urban.
I completed two undergrad degrees.
I am straight.
Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: I wish I had more of a cultural identity or a closer link with my heritage. I am caucasian.
NOW, TWENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU
- The most significant aspect of my upbringing. I had a mother who loved me more than anything else in the world.
- My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. Time is fleeting. My favourite quote is, “The days are long but the years are short.” I remember when my first child was born and everyone would say to enjoy these moments. I didn’t get it. Honestly, it pissed me off. I thought this sleeplessness is NOT going fast enough. But now, as we stand on the brink of grade one, I cannot possibly believe the time has passed so quickly. I want to rewind it all and let the hands of time pass more slowly.
- Something that concerns me about my child(ren). What mother doesn’t worry? I think we all are genetically engineered to worry. My biggest worry is that my children will grow up and not find happiness along the way.
- My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). How to pick? Spanking has to top the list. It doesn’t make anything better. It only makes me feel that I was the one who lost control and had a temper tantrum instead of my child.
- What annoys me most about other mothers. Competitiveness or judgement.
- I am happiest when my kids are happy.
- I am saddest when my kids are sad or I think I have somehow failed them.
- My biggest fear is one of my children dying before me or dying while my children are young.
- I am ashamed of not being more generous.
- Something I need to forgive. I need to forgive myself. Like most mothers, I am my own worst critic.
- Something I wish I could say to someone. Mostly, I am the person who tries to say it. Be it good or bad, I try to tactfully say it. That means I have put my foot in my mouth a few times but yet, I still believe if you feel strongly enough about something, it may need to be said aloud.
- Something I have never told anyone. I must be an open book. I cannot think of one single thing that I have not shared with at least one person in my life. I guess that makes me fortunate to have such a wonderful circle of people who care enough to listen without judgement.
- Something I am trying to change about myself. I am trying to worry less about the number and more about my health.
- My biggest accomplishment. The obvious is my children but beyond that, being a person people can count on and confide in.
- I wish I would win the lottery. Selfish but true.
- Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting. Having one parent who you know loves you can be enough to make all the difference in the world.
- Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting. Life is unpredictable and sometimes you have to stand up for what is best for you.
- How I would describe my faith life. I believe in karma, in doing unto others, that there is someone/something guiding us and looking out for us but who or what it is I don’t know. I also have faith in the goodness of people.
- Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year. I am not sure. Perhaps that I find a way to work a day or two a week and make lots of money. Financially it would be better for me to work more but I realize my kids will only be little for a “little” while. I want to soak it all up and no amount of money is worth missing it!
- Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above. I think I am a glass half full type person and hope that my friends and family see me in the same light.
- BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments.