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12. Canada Day Special: I Am the Person Who Tries to Say It July 1, 2011

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     ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).

I am 38 years old.

I am happily married but often lack the time to truly enjoy our marriage.

I have 2 children; a million dollar family with a 5-year-old boy and 3-year-old daughter.

I mostly stay at home but “dabble” with work a day or two a week.

I am middle, middle upper maybe?  I was once more upper before having kids!

I live urban.

I own.

I completed two undergrad degrees.

I am straight.

Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background:  I wish I had more of a cultural identity or a closer link with my heritage.  I am caucasian.



  1. The most significant aspect of my upbringing.  I had a mother who loved me more than anything else in the world.
  2. My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through.  Time is fleeting.  My favourite quote is, “The days are long but the years are short.”  I remember when my first child was born and everyone would say to enjoy these moments.  I didn’t get it.  Honestly, it pissed me off.  I thought this sleeplessness is NOT going fast enough.  But now, as we stand on the brink of grade one, I cannot possibly believe the time has passed so quickly.  I want to rewind it all and let the hands of time pass more slowly.
  3. Something that concerns me about my child(ren).  What mother doesn’t worry?  I think we all are genetically engineered to worry.  My biggest worry is that my children will grow up and not find happiness along the way.
  4. My absolute worst mothering moment (so far).   How to pick?  Spanking has to top the list.  It doesn’t make anything better.  It only makes me feel that I was the one who lost control and had a temper tantrum instead of my child.
  5. What annoys me most about other mothers.  Competitiveness or judgement.
  6. I am happiest when my kids are happy.
  7. I am saddest when my kids are sad or I think I have somehow failed them.
  8. My biggest fear is one of my children dying before me or dying while my children are young.
  9. I am ashamed of not being more generous.
  10. Something I need to forgive.  I need to forgive myself.  Like most mothers, I am my own worst critic.
  11. Something I wish I could say to someone.  Mostly, I am the person who tries to say it.  Be it good or bad, I try to tactfully say it.  That means I have put my foot in my mouth a few times but yet, I still believe if you feel strongly enough about something, it may need to be said aloud.
  12. Something I have never told anyone.  I must be an open book.  I cannot think of one single thing that I have not shared with at least one person in my life.  I guess that makes me fortunate to have such a wonderful circle of people who care enough to listen without judgement.
  13. Something I am trying to change about myself.  I am trying to worry less about the number and more about my health.
  14. My biggest accomplishment.  The obvious is my children but beyond that, being a person people can count on and confide in.
  15. I wish I would win the lottery.  Selfish but true.
  16. Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting.  Having one parent who you know loves you can be enough to make all the difference in the world.
  17. Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting.  Life is unpredictable and sometimes you have to stand up for what is best for you.
  18. How I would describe my faith life.  I believe in karma, in doing unto others, that there is someone/something guiding us and looking out for us but who or what it is I don’t know.  I also have faith in the goodness of people.
  19. Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year.  I am not sure.  Perhaps that I find a way to work a day or two a week and make lots of money.  Financially it would be better for me to work more but I realize my kids will only be little for a “little” while.  I want to soak it all up and no amount of money is worth missing it!
  20. Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above.  I think I am a glass half full type person and hope that my friends and family see me in the same light.
  21. BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments.

2 Responses to “12. Canada Day Special: I Am the Person Who Tries to Say It”

  1. Sam I Am Says:

    “It only makes me feel that I was the one who lost control and had a temper tantrum instead of my child.” I compltely get what you mean and agree with you. It is so hard to stay focused on being the one in charge all the time! Good luck on the lottery 🙂

  2. somemother Says:

    Why is this post a Canada Day Special? Because this mother is (a) Canadian, eh?! and (b) celebrating a very special 15th anniversary this Canada Day! Happy Anniversary! Canada Day is doubly awesome!

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