part forum. part confession. part celebration.

19. I Think I Did Alright July 21, 2011

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ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).

I am 32 (almost 33) years old.

I am not married but have been with my “better half” for almost 7 years.

I have 2 daughters ages 16 and 4.

I stay at home with my girls but I also go to school full-time.

My family would be considered upper-middle (I think).

I live in a suburb right outside a major city.

We own a home we had built about 4 years ago.

I completed high school and put off college (well I went on and off) but now I am back to it full-time.

I am straight (but sometime I think it might be easier if I had another woman to understand).

Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background:  I am white but my “better half” is African-American and my youngest daughter is bi-racial.



  1. The most significant aspect of my upbringing.  I would have to say that I was the baby of the family and therefore spoiled rotten.  I had my parents together married happily for 16 years, and since the divorce (after the initial fighting) they have always been willing to get along for the kids.
  2. My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through.  The best advice I can give to any mothers is as hard as it seems, enjoy every moment good or bad because the moments go by way too quickly. (I know, my daughter just started driving.)
  3. Something that concerns me about my children.  The only thing that concerns me is that my oldest daughter tends to be shy, and withdrawn.  I would like to see her become more outgoing and confident in herself.  I want her to achieve every dream she has and let nothing hold her back.  My concerns for my youngest tend to be less dramatic, I would like for her to calm down slightly so that her attention span has the ability to catch up with her intelligence.
  4. My absolute worst mothering moment (so far).  Oh gosh there are soooooo many!!!  But to pick one it would be I lose my temper (which happens way to often) and yell/scream at my kids.
  5. What annoys me most about other mothers.  When  a mother thinks their way of parenting is the only right way.  Or when another mother of a high schooler thinks less of my daughter because I chose to have her at a young age.
  6. I am happiest when  I am spending time with my girls and they are happy.  Or when by myself on a beach having a drink and reading a good book (this doesn’t happen nearly enough).
  7. I am saddest when my girls are sad! or when the skies have been gray for a long time (think winter in Michigan)…I NEED sunshine.
  8. My biggest fear. Height…I firmly believe there is no reason to ride a rollercoaster.  I have no idea why people enjoy being dropped 30 stories and then going upside down!!!
  9. I am ashamed of. There are times that I am deeply ashamed that I had a child at 16…something I have to work on every time someone new finds out.
  10. Something I need to forgive.  I am a grudge holder…I regret this and really am trying to change this.
  11. Something I wish I could say to someone.  I wish I could tell me more what I think and not just hold it in (I know this doesn’t sound like me) but I bite my tongue A LOT.
  12. Something I have never told anyone.  I have never told anyone that I up until I met my “better half” I had hoped that my oldest daughter’s father and I would get back together. (I have no idea why this would be such a bad thing.)
  13. Something I am trying to change about myself.  I would like to become more dedicated and have more willpower.  These are 2 things I work on daily.
  14. My biggest accomplishment.  Being a single mom (for 10 years) and doing it well.  We always had a home, food, and clothing so I think I did alright.
  15. I wish. I would win the lotto (don’t we all).  No really I just wish that I am able to raise happy, healthy girls who become anything their heart desires.  (I hope I like their chosen profession LOL)
  16. Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting. Patience is a must….I definitely need to work on this.  My mom has the patience of an angel (it really bugs me sometimes..).
  17. Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting.  Always stand behind your kids no matter what the situation.  My dad has always been there.
  18. How I would describe my faith life.  I’m not a religious person…but I do believe there is a “higher power” just not sure what/who it is.
  19. Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year.  Oh please let me stick to a diet and exercise program…
  20. Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above.  I really am a boring and mundane person….the most excitement my life has right now is anything coming out of my 4 year olds mouth (you never know what she will say)
  21. BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments.  If you could go back and teach your parents one thing about parenting what would it be?

3 Responses to “19. I Think I Did Alright”

  1. Sam I Am Says:

    Great bonus question!! I would explain to them that taking care of the bills is nowhere near as important as they thought-that spending quality time with the kids should be #1.

  2. Sarah Says:

    I feel Ike we’re sisters! Great to meet you. As for your question – I would tell my parents to make sure I did my homework. I plan to make sure my kids study. I know I would have done better in school if I had just been pushed a little harder.

  3. somemother Says:

    I LOVE your question 21. I think, I would want my parents to work on and reconcile their marriage. Everything would have been different if they didn’t spend our childhood in animosity and worse, culminating in divorce when I was a teenager. If they had known how/where to get help…. ah, what if!!

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