ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).
I am 29 years old.
I am married.
I have 6 children, 3 I birthed,1 that’s in heaven and 3 that I inherited. All girls 17,16,11,5,&2.
I stay home.
I am working class.
I live urban.
I completed high school and cosmetology school.
I am straight.
Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: brown.
NOW, TWENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU
- The most significant aspect of my upbringing. I meet my dad when I was 7, and raised by my mother.
- My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. Get all the help you can get, never turn down help, sleep or over think being a mom.
- Something that concerns me about my children. Will they learn to be strong responsible people. I just want them to be better than me.
- My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). Having ppd (post partum depression). It robs you of the fun you “should” be having, not rushing their independence .
- What annoys me most about other mothers. Lack of discipline or the fear of being stern with children in needed situations.
- I am happiest when I’m watching a good movie and eating good food.
- I am saddest when I’m alone for too long. I feel neglected and abandoned.
- My biggest fear. Being a complete failure, failure is ok if you have at least tried everything in your power.
- I am ashamed of my family, aunts, uncles, etc…
- Something I need to forgive. I’m ok with forgiveness, it took some time but I have plenty to do than to think of all the wrongs that have happened to me.
- Something I wish I could say to someone.
- Something I have never told anyone. I would need to write a book about this.
- Something I am trying to change about myself. Live more in the moment, be less hard on myself.
- My biggest accomplishment. Being a wife, mother, home owner and hood daughter. All things I didn’t think that I was worthy of.
- I wish. I had a bit more money sometimes.
- Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting. You can’t be your kids’ friends while they need instruction. You’re raising your kids who will soon be adults.
- Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting. Invest! Never withdrawal myself from my family.
- How I would describe my faith life. Strong! I’ve had a pretty turbulent life, and it has built my character and although things have hurt, it taught me survival.
- Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year. That I would be more of a “doer” and not a ” sayer or a wisher”.
- Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above.
- BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments.
20. I Just Want Them to be Better Than Me July 24, 2011