somemother

part forum. part confession. part celebration.

21. Corny But True July 26, 2011

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ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).

I am 38 years old.

I am married.

I have 2 children (3 & 6).

I work part-time.

I am middle class.

I live urban.

I own.

I completed college, went to University too.

I am straight.

Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: Canadian – English/ Irish/ Scottish

 

NOW, TWENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU

  1. The most significant aspect of my upbringing. My basic needs were met but I never felt wanted or loved.
  2. My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. Each stage, good or bad will pass.
  3. Something that concerns me about my children. Worry my youngest has a chronic health condition that has not been diagnosed.
  4. My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). I have slapped a hand – hard. I am not proud of that, but I am more ashamed of screaming at them, I mean lost it and terrified them.
  5. What annoys me most about other mothers.
  6. I am happiest when my kids are happy.
  7. I am saddest when I forget to enjoy them and am too focused on completing the “tasks”  (dinner, pjs, teeth bed).
  8. My biggest fear. That my children will die before me or that my husband or I will die before they are grown.
  9. I am ashamed of my weight, losing control and scaring my kids.
  10. Something I need to forgive.  See above.
  11. Something I wish I could say to someone. I am sorry for letting you down.
  12. Something I have never told anyone.  I am worried about my marriage. Worried about money.
  13. Something I am trying to change about myself.  See #9
  14. My biggest accomplishment.  My kids, corny but true.
  15. I wish my husband and I could re-connect.
  16. Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting. Don’t be so angry all the time.
  17. Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting. Be there, show up. Time is more important than money.
  18. How I would describe my faith life. I believe in karma. Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
  19. Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year.  Better weight management, better money management, have my marriage back on track.
  20. Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above.
  21. BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments. Do you feel you are a better parent than your parents were?
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One Response to “21. Corny But True”

  1. somemother Says:

    THANK YOU for sharing about “losing it.” This is so very common… that doesn’t necessarily make any of us feel better, but at least we know we are not alone. Motherhood is tough on a gal! For some reason the resources that usually enable us to not rage at other people (small and big!) go out the window from time to time. I’m not sure what would stop this….? Sleep… Support… ??

    I think motherhood/parenthood is also tough on a marriage! We are so consumed with the child rearing, we aren’t sleeping well, our other self-care measures are abbreviated at best. You are not the only one! My worst fights with hubs came after having our 3rd child 😦 And while I joke that he can never leave me after everything I (gladly) went through to have these 3 children, I know it could happen.

    As for your Q21, I definitely think I’m a better parent than my father, who wasn’t with it at all. (Although, I think he was depressed and if he had been successfully treated, oh the possibilities!). But, I can only aspire to be the mother my mom is! She is awesome, and still learning, she says, though we are all in our 30s/40s and half of us have a rocky relationship with her. I think she did so much RIGHT without even knowing it. Thanks Mom!


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