ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).
I am 38 years old.
I am married.
I have 2 children (3 & 6).
I work part-time.
I am middle class.
I live urban.
I completed college, went to University too.
I am straight.
Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: Canadian – English/ Irish/ Scottish
NOW, TWENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU
- The most significant aspect of my upbringing. My basic needs were met but I never felt wanted or loved.
- My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. Each stage, good or bad will pass.
- Something that concerns me about my children. Worry my youngest has a chronic health condition that has not been diagnosed.
- My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). I have slapped a hand – hard. I am not proud of that, but I am more ashamed of screaming at them, I mean lost it and terrified them.
- What annoys me most about other mothers.
- I am happiest when my kids are happy.
- I am saddest when I forget to enjoy them and am too focused on completing the “tasks” (dinner, pjs, teeth bed).
- My biggest fear. That my children will die before me or that my husband or I will die before they are grown.
- I am ashamed of my weight, losing control and scaring my kids.
- Something I need to forgive. See above.
- Something I wish I could say to someone. I am sorry for letting you down.
- Something I have never told anyone. I am worried about my marriage. Worried about money.
- Something I am trying to change about myself. See #9
- My biggest accomplishment. My kids, corny but true.
- I wish my husband and I could re-connect.
- Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting. Don’t be so angry all the time.
- Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting. Be there, show up. Time is more important than money.
- How I would describe my faith life. I believe in karma. Do unto others as you would have done unto you.
- Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year. Better weight management, better money management, have my marriage back on track.
- Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above.
- BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments. Do you feel you are a better parent than your parents were?