part forum. part confession. part celebration.

22. The Love of Family July 30, 2011

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ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).

I am 53 years old.

I am married but sometimes am a single mom.

I have 1 child. He is 12 years old.

I work full-time.

I live in a small town which is very near a larger city.

I rent a town home.

I completed graduate school with an MA in English.

I am straight.

Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: I am an American with German ancestors.  My husband is Igbo, which is a tribe in Nigeria.  And my son has a little of both of us.



  1. The most significant aspect of my up bringing. The love of family. My family was so wonderful that if I had to choose to stay at a friend’s house or stay home with my family, the family usually won the coin toss.
  2. My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. Enjoy it because time flies.  Keep in mind everything you do or that or child experiences follows him in his life as a part of his personality.
  3. Something that concerns me about my child(ren).  I have spoiled my son since the day he was born.  I am worried about his attraction to stuff. 
  4. My absolute worst mothering moment (so far).  My worst mothering moment was when my son had his first seizure, his first round of tics, and when he was diagnosed with diabetes.  Each event crushed me.  What more can a little boy take?
  5. What annoys me most about other mothers.  Advice given as a put down and judgmental.     
  6. I am happiest when. I am happiest when I watch my son lovingly interact with my husband.
  7. I am saddest when.  I am saddest when my son is in pain or distress with his medical issues and learning disabilities.
  8. My biggest fear.  My biggest fear is that I will die before I have my son ready for life on his own.
  9. I am ashamed of.  I am ashamed of nothing.
  10. Something I need to forgive.  I need to forgive the person who took my family farm.  Even though it has been 16 years, I am not ready to forgive.
  11. Something I wish I could say to someone.  I wish I could tell my boss to stop being so paranoid and throwing me under the bus.
  12. Something I have never told anyone.  I have a memory from when I was very young when I was in our neighbor’s house and I recall me being in his bedroom with the neighbor’s son, playing on the bed and the man had no shirt on.  I can’t remember much about what happened after that.  When I was older I learned he had some really unusual sexual habits.
  13. Something I am trying to change about myself.  I am trying to lose weight.  I have been on a diet my whole life.  I swear I was born 50 pounds.
  14. My biggest accomplishment.  Getting my masters degree and being the first person in our whole extended family to get a post-graduate degree.
  15. I wish. I wish my son was well and did not have learning disabilities.
  16. Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting.  Kindness and love are the most powerful things a mother could give.
  17. Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting.  There comes a point that you have to let your children go on their own, but the parent will always be there if needed.
  18. How I would describe my faith life. I am an explorers of many faiths, and hold onto the commonalities that exist between all of them.
  19. Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year. I hope we have a new home that we own.
  20. Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above. I am an author and have a blog.  I love technology and am a gadget freak.  I take pride in who I am, regardless of my flaws.  Some day, when it is the right time, I want to move to Africa.
  21. BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments.  What are your special interests?

One Response to “22. The Love of Family”

  1. somemother Says:

    I love your honesty… about spoiling your child (but really? most of us do, in some way or another, to some degree!), forgiveness… that it has been on your mind for years. I think that is SO common.

    Your answers managed to convey in these few questions what a multifaceted woman you are. I am honoured that you shared here. To answer your question 21, it is funny… my kids are small, not much time for my interests! So unoriginal, but true. I like reading, scrapbooking (how very mom), and also blogging/Twitter. Now, you should answer your own question?!

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