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29. Trying to Enjoy the Preschooler Amidst the Madness August 21, 2011

Filed under: Story — somemother @ 9:58 pm
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ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).

I am 44 years old as of June 21!

I am married.

I have 1 daughter age 5 – 1 step-daughter 19 – 1 step-son 17.

work full-time.

I am lower.lower-middle.middle.upper-middle.upper.  I have no idea how to judge this…we are not poor, but we are struggling right now a bit.

I live urban.


I completed my undergraduate degree in March 2010.

I am straight.

Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: I am German-Norwegian Minnesotan Lutheran.  Typical blond.



  1. The most significant aspect of my upbringing.  Pretty unremarkable childhood, parents still happily together, one brother, lived in the suburbs.
  2. My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. Which part?  The teenage step-daughter you need to just ignore is being a brat?  The teenage step-son smoking pot?  Or trying to enjoy the preschooler amidst the madness?
  3. Something that concerns me about my children.  See above.  I really like when the step-daughter is off at college – the boy is fine now, just does stupid boy things from time to time – and I try to spend as much time with my child as possible.  I worry sometimes that my daughter is too sensitive, and other times worry she is too bossy!  😉
  4. My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). Realizing I yell like my mother did sometimes.  😦
  5. What annoys me most about other mothers. When they go ON AND ON about this or that class they have their kids enrolled in – I don’t care.
  6. I am happiest when I am doing something fun with my daughter and husband…often she and I go places alone because he was not brought up going to zoo’s, museums, plays, etc.  I was.
  7. I am saddest when my daughter cries over something.
  8. My biggest fear. Losing my child.
  9. I am ashamed of. That sometimes I wish my husband would die at work.
  10. Something I need to forgive. That my husband does not know how to save money…
  11. Something I wish I could say to someone. That I don’t like her husband or how he talks to her.
  12. Something I have never told anyone. That I wish my husband would die at work…its terrible and I don’t really mean it, but sometimes when I am mad I think it!  Just hideous.
  13. Something I am trying to change about myself. My weight.
  14. My biggest accomplishment. Getting up this morning or any morning.
  15. I wish. I could find a new job.
  16. Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting. To be silly sometimes and not worry about the mess so much.
  17. Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting. Enjoy the places to go in your own backyard.  Dad always found festivals, carnivals, museums, etc for us to go to.  I buy him and my child tickets to plays when I can…he loves it.
  18. How I would describe my faith life. I like to go to church, but I need to get back into my own faith study instead of just teaching Sunday School.
  19. Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year. My weight and my outlook.
  20. Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above. I really am a pretty happy person, but I have bouts of negativity when people “do” things to me that I feel I have no control over.
  21. BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments.

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