ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).
I am 54 years old.
I am married.
I have 2 children. Here are their ages 13 and 18/genders F/M.
I work full-time.
I am upper-middle.
I live urban.
I completed graduate.doctorate.
I am straight.
Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: WASP, from Jewish Holocaust survivor roots.
NOW, TWENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU
- The most significant aspect of my upbringing. Love, intelligence, freedom and money.
- My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. It all works out, if you can be patient, listen, and grow along with them.
- Something that concerns me about my children. I hope they will find their way, beyond their weaknesses, and find ways to nurture their strengths.
- My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). Decision was based on now, rather than longer term. This covers all worst moments.
- What annoys me most about other mothers. Mistaken belief that they have answers.
- I am happiest when we can laugh together.
- I am saddest when I can’t fix it.
- My biggest fear is that they will be hindered on the path, and fail to reach their maximum potential.
- I am ashamed of my inabilities.
- Something I need to forgive is the things that arise from inabilities.
- Something I wish I could say is that I have found solutions to the biggest dilemmas.
- Something I have never told anyone. I will certainly not tell you.
- Something I am trying to change about myself. My ability to calculate what can and can’t be done in this tiny thimble of time.
- My biggest accomplishment is balancing children, husband, and clients.
- I wish I could find a better solution for squeezing my friends back into my life.
- Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting is to trust it will be okay, and enjoy them just for who they are.
- Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting is to go out of my way to do kind things, beyond expectations.
- How I would describe my faith life. Raised by Atheists, I made Religion a regular part of our week, and found it fuel for a joyful life.
- Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year is my skill level, when it comes to how I juggle duties.
- Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above is the pain and tragedy of my clients, and how I try to help them, even in tiny ways.
- BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments. Something I learned from my family, that I didn’t realize, and would never have understood without them.