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36. Fuel for a Joyful Life September 16, 2011

Filed under: Story — somemother @ 10:48 pm
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ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).

I am 54 years old.
I am married.
I have 2 children. Here are their ages 13 and 18/genders F/M.
I work full-time.
I am upper-middle.
I live urban.
I own.
I completed graduate.doctorate.
I am straight.
Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: WASP, from Jewish Holocaust survivor roots.



  1. The most significant aspect of my upbringing.  Love, intelligence, freedom and money.
  2. My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through.  It all works out, if you can be patient, listen, and grow along with them.
  3. Something that concerns me about my children.  I hope they will find their way, beyond their weaknesses, and find ways to nurture their strengths. 
  4. My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). Decision was based on now, rather than longer term.  This covers all worst moments.
  5. What annoys me most about other mothers.  Mistaken belief that they have answers.
  6. I am happiest when we can laugh together.
  7. I am saddest when I can’t fix it.
  8. My biggest fear is that they will be hindered on the path, and fail to reach their maximum potential.
  9. I am ashamed of my inabilities.
  10. Something I need to forgive is the things that arise from inabilities.
  11. Something I wish I could say is that I have found solutions to the biggest dilemmas.
  12. Something I have never told anyone. I will certainly not tell you.
  13. Something I am trying to change about myself.  My ability to calculate what can and can’t be done in this tiny thimble of time.
  14. My biggest accomplishment is balancing children, husband, and clients.
  15. I wish I could find a better solution for squeezing my friends back into my life.
  16. Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting is to trust it will be okay, and enjoy them just for who they are.
  17. Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting is to go out of my way to do kind things, beyond expectations.
  18. How I would describe my faith life.   Raised by Atheists, I made Religion a regular part of our week, and found it fuel for a joyful life.
  19. Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year is my skill level, when it comes to how I juggle duties.
  20. Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above is the pain and tragedy of my clients, and how I try to help them, even in tiny ways. 
  21. BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments.  Something I learned from my family,  that I didn’t realize, and would never have understood without them.




















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