somemother

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54. Once a Mother, Always a Mother ((Happy Mother’s Day!)) May 13, 2012

ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).

 

I am 68 years old.

 

I am divorced.

 

I have 4 children. Here are their ages/genders: 4 girls: 46, 41, 37, 37.  PMS was fun at my house.

 

I am retired.

 

I am lower.

 

I live urban.

 

I rent.

 

I completed Grade 11. To cool for school.

 

I am straight.

 

Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: Christian.

 

NOW, TWENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU

  1. The most significant aspect of my upbringing. My parents were always around. My mom was a stay-at-home-mom. Most important we had a christian home.
  2. My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. It has been a long time since I had children at home that I was responsible for. I did some things right and a lot wrong – but – not one died, got pregnant, or in trouble with the law (that I know of). Some of the things I learnt: Don’t sweat the small  stuff. Don’t expect perfection. Learn as you go. Work together with your mate – you are both learning how to do this job (without training). Don’t criticize your mate in front of your children. Show respect for each other and your children will learn respect. That is a lot of don’ts. Most of all love your children, be patient. Remember you are capable of so much more than you think you are!  Taking on responsibilities doesn’t mean giving up joy. Sometimes it is a great way to find it.
  3. Something that concerns me about my children. As mothers themselves they need to count their blessings and be HAPPY and CONTENT with where they are at, at that moment. Cut themselves and others some slack. And ENJOY!
  4. My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). There are so many I couldn’t even list them. As for my children they tell me they don’t remember me yelling at them ever!!! So…
  5. What annoys me most about other mothers. When they compare their kids to other kids, expect them to do “as good” or better in everything. All kids are different(even in the same family). God made them that way. For a reason I might add!
  6. I am happiest when my family is happy, at peace with each other, and enjoying life together.
  7. I am saddest when my children are in discord. They say it doesn’t concern me – but that is not true. It is always my concern. If it hurts your child, it hurts you more. Doesn’t matter how old they are.  Once a Mother always a Mother!
  8. My biggest fear. Something will happen to one of my children or grandkids.
  9. I am ashamed of. After working almost all my life, I will most likely need financial help from my kids in the near future.
  10. Something I need to forgive. Disrespect.
  11. Something I wish I could say to someone.  Let yourself be happy and content. Life goes by too quickly to be otherwise. Tell the ones you love–that you do love them often, for no reason, and show it by your actions.
  12. Something I have never told anyone. I am afraid a lot of the time that I am not a good enough person, that I don’t deserve to be happy — Then I shake my head and remember –I am God’s child.
  13. Something I am trying to change about myself. To be more confident, not to be afraid, to believe in myself. Above all to LET GOD!
  14. My biggest accomplishment. My kids! Second: surviving my divorce.
  15. I wish I could be the mother my children envision…  I am not , so they will have to accept what God gave them.
  16. Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting. My Mother made our house a HOME! No matter how much we had or didn’t have. We always felt safe and loved.
  17. Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting. My Father was a patient, kind man. He had a great sense of humour. He loved all his children unconditionally. I strive to be like him!
  18. How I would describe my faith life. I know that God has my life in his hands. I do admit that I have to remind myself of that fact many times.  There are a lot of things to think about, but nothing to worry about!
  19. Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year. My family will ALL be together happy and content!
  20. Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above.  Motherhood is the greatest, unending, most rewarding job you will ever have. You need to know it will never end. Your heart and mind will always be with each one of your children for the rest of your life. SO ENJOY!  Once a Mother, always a Mother.  God Bless.
  21. BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments.
 

24. There is No Better Teacher in the World Than a Parent August 5, 2011

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ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you)

I am 64 years old.

I am married.

I have 2 boys, 43 and 32.

I work at home.

I am middle upper.

I live in a rural area.

I own.

I completed undergrad.

I am straight.

Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: Caucasian.

NOW, TWENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU

  1. The most significant aspect of my upbringing.  I lived in 7 addresses the first 11 years, both Midwest and Texas.
  2. My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. Be respectful to your children when they have children.
  3. Something that concerns me about my children. Nothing. They are great parents.
  4. My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). When my older son was 2, we took him to a park. At some point in the afternoon, I let him get out of reach and he decided to run away  straight for a cement lock with no fence.  A bystander realized I could not get to him before he fell and ran to scoop him up and bring him back. The potential was terrifying. I didn’t let him get out of reach the rest of the afternoon.
  5. What annoys me most about other mothers. Nothing, unless they hit their children.
  6. I am happiest when I have my grandchildren with me.
  7. I am saddest when it has been a long time since I’ve seen my grandchildren.
  8. My biggest fear. Not getting to finish my goals.
  9. I am ashamed of not figuring out how to get close to my mother.
  10. Something I need to forgive. I need to forgive myself for not being a perfect mother.
  11. Something I wish I could say to someone. To my roomie, who died of breast cancer, leaving behind 3 young children, “I miss you.”
  12. Something I have never told anyone. I think my feet are perfect.
  13. Something I am trying to change about myself. Losing that last five pounds.
  14. My biggest accomplishment. Learning how to fly.
  15. I wish I was fluent in Chinese and French.
  16. Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting.  Babies cry; it’s ok.
  17. Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting.  There is no better teacher in the world than a parent.
  18. How I would describe my faith life. You are what you do.
  19. Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year. Financial results will let me reach a big goal I’ve been working on for five years.
  20. Something important about my story that hasn¹t been captured by the questions above. I love to write.
  21. BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments.  What advice would you give grandmothers?