ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).
I am 37 years old.
I am married.
I have 4 children. Here are their ages/genders: Two girls, 2 and 9, and two boys, 5 and 7.
I stay home.
I am middle class.
I live suburban.
I completed undergrad.
I am straight.
Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: my dad is Jewish & my mom is catholic.
NOW, TWENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU
- The most significant aspect of my upbringing. I had a happy childhood as the oldest of four children and we are all still very close.
- My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. Try to see the humor in everything. Things that are frustrating now will make funny stories one day. And they will learn to sleep, eventually, I promise.
- Something that concerns me about my children. I worry too much about who their friends are and about them hanging out with the “wrong crowd.”
- My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). I was on an important phone call and my kids were screaming and carrying on in the background, making it hard to hear. I hung up the phone and turned to them and screamed at them. I mean, literally screamed. I completely lost it. They looked at me like I was a monster about to hurt them. I stopped my tirade and then very faintly, from the phone in my hand, I heard, “um, Hello…?” There was someone on the line the whole time, and they heard everything!
- What annoys me most about other mothers. When their children misbehave in public and they don’t try to stop it.
- I am happiest when. I’m with my family (and everyone is getting along).
- I am saddest when. I read a sad book. I get absorbed into the books I read and if the book is sad, I tend to let the sadness overcome me for days.
- My biggest fear. Oh, I can’t say, because then it might happen.
- I am ashamed of. Being selfish. Sometimes I’m so worried about my own life that I forget to ask a friend or family member about something important that they’re going through.
- Something I need to forgive. I need to forgive myself for not going to the prom in high school with a nice (but nerdy) guy I knew, because I was worried about what people would say if they saw us together.
- Something I wish I could say to someone. “I’m not rude. I’m just shy and it’s hard for me to speak up.”
- Something I have never told anyone. Once I bought a bag of Halloween candy (Reese’s peanut butter cups) and I ate the whole thing. In two days. Okay, not just once.
- Something I am trying to change about myself. I am trying to learn to relax, to eat better, and take better care of my body.
- My biggest accomplishment. My children.
- I wish. I had more money and less debt. Or at least that I didn’t worry so much about money.
- Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting. Relax, everything is going to be okay.
- Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting. Relax, everything is going to be okay (and Daddy will fix it).
- How I would describe my faith life. I’m a Christian and I attend a very conservative Anglican church.
- Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year. Well, the health thing I mentioned- I hope next year I’m able to comfortably run 3 miles without wishing for death. And I hope I can get through one day without thinking about junk food.
- Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above.
- BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments