ESTABLISHING YOURSELF (a few details that help somemothers know what they have in common with you).
I am 24 years old.
I am single.
I have 1 child. Here are their ages/genders: 16m/F
I stay home for now.
I am lower.
I live urban.
I completed high school. Working toward college.
I am straight.
Of note about my ethnicity and/or cultural background: I’m black with white (european) and latin background.
NOW, TWENTY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU
- The most significant aspect of my upbringing. Didn’t really have much of a father figure, my dad was there physically, but it was as if he wasn’t.
- My best advice to mothers about to enter the stage of child rearing that I just went through. Don’t ever think that it will get easier, ’cause it won’t. It will get different with the stages though, but you’ll get used to IT.
- Something that concerns me about my child. That her father is semi absent in her life because we don’t live together and that she’ll have daddy and abandonment issues.
- My absolute worst mothering moment (so far). Being too tired to bring her outside.
- What annoys me most about other mothers. That they think that they know best and they can not be wrong cause they’ve been doing this longer than others.
- I am happiest when. I’m with my child.
- I am saddest when. I’m not with her.
- My biggest fear. That one day I might not be able to provide for her and to attend to her needs. That I die before she can take care of herself.
- I am ashamed of. Not being able to be the mother that I wanted/need to be because of my current situation.
- Something I need to forgive. My parents for not being the parents that I needed them to be.
- Something I wish I could say to someone. I do.
- Something I have never told anyone.
- Something I am trying to change about myself. Procrastination/laziness.
- My biggest accomplishment. My child.
- I wish. That change will change for the better and that I’ll always be there for my child.
- Something my relationship with my mother has taught me about parenting. You got to put your child’s needs before your own.
- Something my relationship with my father has taught me about parenting. That a father is as important as a mother in a child’s life.
- How I would describe my faith life. Confused.
- Something I hope will be different for me by this time next year. That I’ll get back on track and that I’ll be where I wanted to be in life or at least almost there.
- Something important about my story that hasn’t been captured by the questions above. I’m a survivor.
- BONUS: A question you would like to see added to this list that readers can respond to in the comments.